First week
How your toddler's growing
My 21-month-old is now
interested in rearranging furniture, assisting with chores, and using his own
play shelves, table, and chairs. He is also able to put on his own clothes,
wash and dry his hands, or brush his teeth with help.
He's getting closer to being
toilet trained. He declined to wear diaper during night time and he is able to
wake me up to get him to toilet. He passes his bowel in the toilet. He run to
the toilet whenever he wants to pee or passes his bowel. This is because
between the 18th month and second birthday, most toddlers recognize when they
are going to urinate or have a bowel movement. He also, now, willingly to sleep
in his private room (provided the door is wide open so that I could hear his
voice).
Your life: setting a routine
Toddlers at this age like
things "just so". Along with tantrums and exploration, obstinacy is
another hallmark of toddlerhood. Respect his preferences and interests and try
to give in on the little things, like what to put on his toast or which top to
wear. Make it clear that some things - like dangerous behavior – are not
negotiable.
Try establishing regular times
for napping, eating, and going to bed to help him feel more secure and in control.
Routines make my life easier as long as they're not too rigid. If your child
knows what to expect every day, you'll probably encounter less resistance. A
predictable way of doing things can also keep you from having to take time to
plan each day separately.
Second week
How your toddler's growing
Sharing probably isn't one of my
child's strong points. I don't expect him to master this social grace until
later. But he understood, to some extent, what BARTER is. But most of the time,
he is just learning about ownership: "Mine!" He isn't inclined to
hand over his possessions, partly because he doesn't have a good understanding
of time (when will I get it back?) or give-and-take (you do something for me,
I'll do something for you). He’ll willingly to share his toys when he is sure
of he’ll get it back or you are playing with him included or if you praise him
when I saw him offering a toy to a friend or a baby. It shows that you share
things yourself, and use words that help your child understand what it means.
For example, try asking if you can play with something she's playing with. If
she protests, don't force it. Just say, "Can I have a turn?" With
this to-ing and fro-ing, your toddler will start to get an idea of what sharing
means.
Don't insist on sharing or set
up turn-taking during playdates. Nor is it a good idea to hand over your
child's toys to a visitor. Put out toys with lots of pieces (like blocks) and,
as far as possible, let them work out who uses what.
Your life now: correcting without criticising
Criticizes behavior when you
must, but avoid criticising your child. Pointing fingers does little to teach
proper behaviour.
Try phrasing statements to
make clear which behaviours you like and which you don't: "I don't like
that screechy noise you're making. Please use a quiet, inside voice, like
this." "I don't like it when you unroll the whole toilet roll."
"I like it when you come right away."
Third week
How your toddler's growing
Whether being silly, throwing
a tantrum, or banging a drum, your child may seem like a revved-up ball of
energy with an uncanny ability to keep going and going. That's actually a good
thing, because young children learn through repetition. But because children
this age live so much in the moment, your 21-month-old has a hard time changing
gears from one activity or mood to another. He just can't stop himself when
he's on a roll. You may even notice this tendency in your child's fine motor
skills. He might scribble right off the paper or paint his arms or the easel as
well as the drawing pad in front of him.
Your life now: table manners
The typical 21-month-old has
developed some decent self-feeding skills – like filling a spoon with food and
getting it into his mouth, spearing food with a fork and drinking from a cup.
Whether your toddler is willing to use those skills consistently at the table
is another story. I started Syakir to self-feed using utensils at the age of 18
months and by now, he is able to eat himself, so do the floor and his shirt. He
is also declined to drink with bottle so we introduced bottle with straw to him
at the age of 18 months.
Fourth week
How your toddler's growing
Syakir is a hearty eaters, he
simply eat anything that we cooked (yes, his dady also cook for him if I’m
outta town). He eats his veggie with rice happily but refused to have his
chicken in the rice. Unlikely many children his age. He enjoys his fruits as
snacks and less sugar-y food or drink. He,
as well, enjoys his bread, pasta, macaroni cheese and the list goes on. Yet,
one thing for sure, he enjoys more if we eat together at the table. I guess he
felt he is big enough not to be feed by mommy.
Your life now: how routines help
I tried my best at
establishing – and sticking to – set times for napping, eating and going to
bed. A regular schedule helps my child feel more secure and in control. He
can't tell the time yet (but he knows when hi Upin and Ipin program time), so
it also gives her a sense of what's coming next.
Routines make your life
easier, too – and not only because they simplify day-to-day planning. If your
child knows what to expect every day, you'll probably encounter less
resistance.
You don't have to be rigid.
What's most important is that things happen in pretty much the same order at
more or less the same time each day. Weekend bedtimes and morning wakeups that
are roughly the same as on weekdays will help keep the routine on track.
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